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Wednesday, August 10, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #50

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Girls SHOULD...
BE A SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR A FRIEND.
It's an important and valuable lesson to learn that will help you as life goes on because it SEEMS that we spend the early parts of our lives enjoying parties, celebrations, weddings and other joyful occasions and the later parts of our life dealing with illnesses, death of family members, and God forbid losing children.
If you can learn to be the support system that bolsters a friend when she's down it's a character trait that will serve you and your family and friends for years!
It is good to be a person that others can come to for comfort when times get stressful and hard.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #49

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Girls SHOULD...
FEEL NO GUILT.
For buying a frivolous item, for doing what they want, for taking care of themselves, for saying NO.
Every woman should cultivate the ability to make a choice and then stand by it without GUILT.
Trust me, I know it is hard and it's very easy to second guess yourself after a big decision has been made but, it is better to just have faith in yourself and your own ability to know what is good and right for YOU and carry on!

Monday, August 8, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #48

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Girls SHOULD...
HAVE A BASIC KNOWLEDGE OF CARS.
If you have taken your car to one place and got a quote and taken it to another and got a quote that is double the original you can be sure someone has noticed that you are FEMALE and assumed that he can over charge you because you don't have enough vehicle knowledge to know the difference.
Trust me, it happens!
It is a GREAT idea to have at least enough of an idea how your car works that when they tell you something hinky you will know it and can then say thank you very much but, I will take my car to the competition.!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #47

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Girls SHOULD...
BUY THEMSELVES FLOWERS.
Some boys call flowers weeds! (my hubby) and no matter how many times you try to explain to them JUST what it is about flowers that you love they either can't or refuse to see it and don't want to waste their money to buy them for you! SO...I say go out and my your self some damn flowers! Then thumb your nose at the boy! LOL
Flowers are just so beautiful it's really hard not to feel a little joy and sunshine from having a bouquet of them sitting in a vase on your table!

Saturday, August 6, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #46

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Girls SHOULD...
SET A MOUSETRAP.
Hey, I've always been the mousetrap setter in my life. I also have some beautiful, fluffy little mousers living in my house with me and they do a great job of hunting the little critters.
Sometimes, believe it or not...you may live with a man who is squeamish about mice.
Sometimes, you may BE the girl who is squeamish about mice.
SOMEBODY has to be the one to set the trap, catch the mouse and then get rid of it. You might as well just suck it up and be the one. You will feel in turn both horrible and fantastic for being able to take care of it but, it's a good thing to know that you don't NEED someone else to do the dirty work for you!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #45

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Girls SHOULD...
FLIRT!
A little bit of flirting is good for everyone!
I'm NOT talking about stuff that goes over the line. I'm simply talking about the words and gestures we use with each other to let each other know there is an attraction.
It leaves a person feeling good that someone else finds them likable and desirable!
It helps us boost our own self-confidence and self-esteem and what could possibly be wrong with that?
If you feel like flirting, flirt! You serve no-one by squashing your own sense of self and well-being just to keep from having jealous spats wit your significant other!
AGAIN, I am not talking about things that cross the line...I am only talking about harmless, feel good flirting with someone you have an appreciation for and who reciprocates.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #44

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Girls SHOULD...
PLAN A PARTY!
Every girl should plan and execute some kind of party or get together at least once so she can learn what it is to be a hostess. If she likes it she can do it many times and become a very GOOD one!
There are many details that can go into a party and it can make you feel very accomplished if you plan and manage to execute all of them without any issues.
It is wonderful to create the perfect get together but, don't beat yourself up if it doesn't go exactly right.
Also, be prepared to go along with the flow if things happen that cause changes. There's no sense "crying over spilled milk" just roll with it and carry on!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #43

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Girls SHOULD...
MAKE FRIENDS WITH GIRLS.
Maybe I prefer friendships with boys but there is still something special about the girl friends I have as well. NOBODY can giggle like a girl! Boys don't care about hair or nails or clothes much so it's fun to have a girl friend for advice and opinions on those aspects of being a GIRL!
Also, your girl friends don't mind conversations about the boys you LIKE or LOVE and all the stuff that comes into conversations about that.
Girls make day to day life fun and exciting and easier to enjoy!

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #42

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Girls SHOULD...
MAKE FRIENDS WITH BOYS.
The only way to know the opposite sex better is to make friends with them. Many of them.
A friendship with a boy is not the same as a relationship. It is much more relaxed and easy going and gives you (usually) a more practical and rational perspective on things.
Even if they are only your friend they will still do things to help you out and make you feel appreciated and happy because they are your FRIEND and they do care that you feel good about hanging out with them and that your friendship is mutually beneficial.
I love boys and I love them as friends. They tell me the TRUTH about whatever I want to know but, most of all about other guys. If they think he's a jerk they will say so, they will almost always be right and you can trust that they CARE about your best interests in that because they don't want to see you get hurt.
Whether a boy is your boy friend or just a friend they DON'T like to see you cry so will do whatever they need to do to keep that from happening! BUT, if they can't prevent it you can be sure they will then do whatever they can to cheer you up and stop it. They'd really just rather be hanging out and having a fun time together but, will also want to help you when you are feeling sad and try to get you to feel better however they can...usually by being silly and making you laugh!!
Boys are FUN and sweet and charming and silly and funny and a hundred other things and being friends with them can make life better, richer and full of laughter.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #41

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Girls SHOULD...
END A BAD RELATIONSHIP HONESTLY.
Whatever reason you end it you should at least have the decency and humanity to tell the person why and be honest about the reasons. How will they ever learn to improve themselves if they have no idea what they did or didn't do? I'm not including abusive, controlling and dangerous relationships in this statement. IF and WHEN you are ready to leave those PLEASE leave running and never look back. That would be the best you could do! I simply mean, how hard is it to tell a person that you are finished with the relationship because you don't feel the same way, or you have decided you need time to yourself, or truthfully you have met someone else and if you can fall for them then you must not have been in the right relationship...or you must not have been happy, and most of all...OWN your own part of the reasons why you are leaving. When people say, "It's not you, it's ME." they often say that as a way to leave softly and try to keep from hurting the other person which is nice and ok but, I hope that they also recognize the TRUTH in that statement. YOU are leaving because YOU did not get whatever it was you thought you needed and wanted from that relationship for whatever reason. Later maybe you'll blame that other person for all the things they did or didn't do to be the person you needed but, REALLY you are the only person to hold ownership for ANY decision or choice you make so BE HONEST...with yourself and also them. It will save a lot of grief on both ends.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #40

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Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO WRAP A GIFT.
It is good to be creative and try something new and it is very good to give a gift that is wrapped attractively because appreciating the wrapping is part of the joy of receiving the gift and can tell you before you even open it that it has been well thought out and planned with attention given to the details that YOU appreciate. It is better to give than receive but when receiving it is just lovely to know that your friend CARES about the things that you appreciate and tries to give you something that shows it. That is kind of the point after all!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

50 Day Things Girls Should Do Challenge:Post #39

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Girls SHOULD...
APOLOGIZE.
Nevermind girls should...everybody should apologize when they are wrong!
It only shows respect and consideration for everyone else's feelings.
If you have hurt or wronged someone in some way then it is only right and proper
That you accept ownership for the wrongdoing and apologize!

50 Things Girls Should Do Challenge: Post #38

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Girls SHOULD...
ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT.
Some of us have a hard time accepting compliments for any good part of us.
Sometimes we seem to understand and accept negative remarks and then continue to
Beat ourselves up because we begin to believe them.
What is so wrong with accepting compliments, encouragements
Or other positive reinforcements of ourselves from our family and friends?
We need to try to learn to find and accept the positives in life!

Thursday, July 28, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #37

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Girls SHOULD...
WRITE A THANK YOU NOTE.
There are many times and things in life that it is a good thing to write a thank you note for and show your appreciation for being remembered, included, invited etc.
I think it may be a dying art but, it is never too late to resurrect it!
Thank you notes work for wedding gifts, thanking guests for attending events, baby showers, birthdays, and anything else you want to let someone know you are grateful for any help they've given.
It's never a bad thing to show appreciation!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #36

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Girls SHOULD...
TRAVEL WITH FRIENDS.
My friends and I are planning a girl's weekend in Oct. this year and hopefully it will become an annual thing every year after if it goes well. It is a grand idea to have a travel time with just the girls to catch up on the goings on in each of our lives and share some girl time together. We are hoping for fun, relaxation, shopping, giggles, good meals together and good company and maybe even time to complain about our boys if it is necessary! LOL
It will be great and I beieve whole-heartedly that every group of girl friends should do it too!

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #35

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Girls SHOULD...
TRAVEL.
It is good to take a road trip by yourself even if it is just to visit an aunt or uncle or other family member or friend for a weekend. Feeling capable of driving or otherwise travelling from one place to anther without company or help is a very independent thing. It IS important for you to always be careful if you are a single woman on the road though so NEVER pick up a hitch hiker, NEVER open your window fully for anyone if you do pull over for any reason and just otherwise follow safety tips and keep yourself aware of you surroundings! But, taking that trip makes you feel more confident and THAT is always a good thing!

Monday, July 25, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #34

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Girls SHOULD...
HAVE FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX.
That's right...boys! The word is FRIEND though, not prospective mate or boy friend, NOT friend with benefits, JUST a friend of the opposite sex to have discussions with and support and encouragement between you. Having a guy for a friend can open up some good discussions because they bring a different point of view and perspective to the relationship and that can sometimes be much more helpful to your growth and understanding of a situation. Just my humble opinion! ;)

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #33

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Girls SHOULD...
CHALLENGE YOURSELF.
However it is you do this it is good for growth and the betterment of your own self.
When I was a single mom of two I took correspondence courses. I have four diplomas. Many of my friends don't know or remember this about me because I've done nothing in a career way with these credentials. It simply gave me something to strive for and work toward. Something to keep my mind occupied. The brain is also a muscle and if you do not exercise it then it can stagnate.
I am also guilty of having done that through out my life. I far prefer when my mind is pushed and challenged and working if not at it's best at least better than when it is not working!!
Find something you fear or avoid and challenge yourself to face it!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #32

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Girls SHOULD...
LEARN A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE.
I think learning a new language is a great challenge for your brain. Even if you don't learn it in full but, just learn enough to have a passable conversation with someone it could be delightful!
To this point I don't know enough of any for a conversation but I have learned some words from different ones here and there and I find it both challenging and FUN!
It helps if you have a friend with enough time to help with pronunciation and meaning and to practice conversation with as well but, there are also many helpful programs online that can help as well.
Give it a try!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #31

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Girls SHOULD...
TRY SOMETHING NEW.
This can be anything you've always wanted to do and never tried because you didn't think you could or were scared of it or it felt out of your element. You NEVER know when trying something new could ignite the passion inside you and open a new world of things and people and ideas to you.
It's ok if something really has no interest for you. You don't have to try things you don't want to but, if you have had a thought or an idea that it is something you'd like to give a chance then I think you should!
It can't hurt to try something new and see if it is something you like. Maybe, even some of the things you think you would NOT like would become a favourite past time if you just give them a try.
Go for it!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #30

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Girls SHOULD...
MOW THE LAWN.
I don't know about you but, this is one of the jobs I make hubby do, or he will also teach the boys to do it as they get old enough. It IS a good idea to be able to start, maintain and use a lawnmower yourself though because you never know when something might happen (God forbid) and you HAVE no choice but to do it yourself...or perhaps pay a young person to do it for you.
When I lived alone I didn't have a powered lawn mower I had a push mower and it was old and dull so needless to say cutting the lawn was a huge, annoying ordeal!
I am grateful I have a hubby to do these annoying chores for me and I hope I will never have another time in my life where I need to do it myself because I've been there and done that!
However, it IS important to remember and be capable to do the job yourself!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #29

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Girls SHOULD...
PAINT A ROOM.
Along with many other things a girl should do as a task just to feel a sense of accomplishment after completing it a good choice is to paint a room. I still have not managed to fully complete my sons room. His room has a bunch of different colours because it got started and not finished but also because it hasn't always been his room. Actually since I have lived in this house most of my life and moved back when my older two were little EACH of them has shared the room that I slept in when I was a kid too. It still has mauve walls! lol but also some blue and some green which seemed much more appropriate for a boy...now I plan to panel the wall because I just lack the energy for a paint job.
At one point I planned to paint a mural on the wall but, I never did get around to that! Whatever you decide to do for yourself it is a big job but, really does make you feel good if you can complete it!
I did manage to paint my kitchen once though I really think sometimes that it should be redone but, I think that I will wait until I'm ready to have the floor and ceiling done as well.
Anyway, if it isn't really your thing then try something else. The important thing is to try to do some jobs yourself just for the experience and the satisfaction!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #28

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Girls SHOULD...
REPAIR THINGS IN YOUR HOUSE.
It is good to be able to fix some of the small things that need fixing in your house. So whatever tasks these are you should not be averse to tackling some of them.
It is great if you have a man in your life that can do these little jobs for you but, some of us don't!
So you should never be afraid to try and fix them yourself! It will give you a sense of accomplishment and capability and you will know that you can take care of yourself which is very important knowledge to have and may actually open the door to the ideas of many other things you can try to accomplish as well!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #27

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Girls SHOULD...
GO TO A MOVIE OR OUT TO DINNER ALONE.
There is nothing wrong with this. Every woman should do this just so she can know and understand that it is OK. Every woman needs to learn to be alone with herself and enjoy the company of her own spirit and soul. Many of us busy ourselves and keep people around us at all times because we don't want to hear the silence or face the things that may be hiding inside of it. I say, if you can learn to accept and enjoy the silence and solitude of being by yourself you will be one step closer to NOT keeping friendships and relationships out of the fear of being alone. SOMETIMES it is ok to be alone. It is ok to learn to like, love and accept yourself just as you are and the only way to do this is embrace some time alone with yourself once in awhile.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #26

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Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO COOK A MEAL.
Hell, they should learn to cook many! It is GOOD to feed your family and friends and be good at it!
It is good not only to nurture their bellies but, also to nurture their spirits because everyone likes to know they are appreciated and a good way to show them that is to cook them a nice meal. Especially BOYS! Boys love it when you can cook and will cook for them. Haven't you ever heard that "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? That isn't a saying for no good reason, it happens to be true!
So if you don't know how to cok maybe it's a good time to start! It is definitely something your significant other will appreciate!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #25

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Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO READ A MAP.
I have heard and know for myself that it is true that women keep track of where they are and where they are going by landmarks. But, what happens when something on such and such a corner is burned to the ground or moved? We would be confused and possibly lost! So it's a good idea to learn to read maps and understand directions! Then we will always be able to figure out where we are and how to get from A to B  and back home again!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #24

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Girls SHOULD...
DISAGREE WITH SOMEONE.
Every girl should have the strength and security within herself to be able to have and own her own opinion ESPECIALLY when it differs from everyone else!
You don't have to be a YES girl. You don't have to be a people pleaser. If you are one of those you should definitely work on trying to assert yourself once in awhile and HAVE your own opinion, make your OWN choices...not meant to please anyone else but yourself.
I'm not talking about choices that deliberately hurt others or are actually mean or spiteful, I am simply talking about recognizing, understanding and taking care of your OWN needs once in awhile first!
I know many of us put others higher on the importance scale and that is just wrong!
Your opinion, your feelings, your heart, your needs all matter EQUALLY so don't be afraid to speak up!

Thursday, July 14, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #23

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Girls SHOULD...
BE ABLE TO SEW A BUTTON OR STITCH A TEAR
In this disposable world I am sure there are plenty of girls who do NOT know how to do this.
It is a GREAT idea to go to your mom or grandma and ask for a quick lesson! It's not a hard job and every woman (and man too) should know how to do it in case of emergency clothing rips or malfunctions!
If you don't actually have anyone to ask, google search is a wonderful tool and will likely find you many very simple sewing lessons that will help!! ;)

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #22

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Girls SHOULD...
KNOW HOW TO BALANCE A CHECKBOOK.
You NEVER know when something is going to happen and you will have to step up and be responsible for this job and keeping track of the finances of your household.
It can be stressful, and many of us really do NOT enjoy it, but, it is a very good idea to be privy to the financial information and have the ability to manage and control it yourself, NOT just trust your significant other to take care of it. If you don't know, LEARN because IF you ever have to take over the job and you have none of the information you could be overwhelmed and completely lost which will only add more stress!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #21

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Girls SHOULD...
EAT WHAT THEY WANT TO EAT!
Please girls, what is the point of eating like a bird? You can eat LOTS and still be eating healthy!
Not to mention the fact that your body needs a balance of all the nutrients and vitamins on the food chart!
I really can't speak for ALL the boys but, I know MANY who appreciate a girl who is NOT afraid to eat what she wants and likes with gusto...just like they do!
If you like to eat then the chances are you're going to be a pretty good cook and that means they will get to EAT which is something that most boys LOVE to do....so it's happy all the way around!! LOL

Monday, July 11, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #20

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Girls SHOULD...
LET GO OF CONTROL.
Sometimes, a girl should let her boy take control of a situation.
Sometimes, a girl should let her friend make the decision about what they are doing, where they are going and even why.
Sometimes, a girl should allow herself to leave the kitchen a mess for awhile and go read a book just because she feels like it.
Sometimes, a girl should let her significant other go and do what he wants and enjoy some free time without getting pissy or upset because he needs some time away from her. (It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or enjoy his time with you OR that he enjoys being away from you MORE than being with you-it only means he needs space and time with himself or his friends too).
There are plenty more ideas and examples for this but, I think you get the point. It is not healthy or good to always have to be in control of everything that is happening around you and in your life. Sometimes, you really need to let go and just BE, just enjoy the day or the moment or the time without worrying something is out of place or doesn't look right or whatever...

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #19

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Girls SHOULD...
ASSEMBLE PRE-FAB FURNITURE THEMSELVES.
It is something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and independence that you can do so yourself rather than need a man to help you.
I KNOW many of us like to have a "big, strong man" around to do these things for us but, it really is a good thing to know that you are quite capable of getting things like this done for yourself, all by yourself!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #18

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Girls SHOULD...
GO CAMPING.
EVERY girl should try going camping at least once! Most boys enjoy camping and if you enjoy it too it can become a very pleasant experience for you to share.
NOBODY likes the bugs! But, once you get past that it is the most calm and relaxing atmosphere EVER!
Hubby and sometimes fight (when we put up the tent usually) lol but, once we get that over with we just thoroughly enjoy being outside, in the fresh air, enjoying nature, swimming when we want, eating when we want, napping if we want, no phone calls, no stress, just quiet peaceful time together away from regular life. Camping is also something kids enjoy doing, at least our kids always did!
This year we are planning to take the youngest for a weekend and it's been a few years since we could. He's very excited because he's been camping since he was a baby and has always LOVED it!
It IS ok if you really son't like it but, I suggest really trying it and being open about it just ONCE and see if you don't come to love it too!!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #17

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Girls SHOULD...
HAVE A HOBBY OR INTEREST OR MANY!
It is important to cultivate and use your own talents and gifts therefore you should try many things and see which ones you like and which ones you don't!
It is good to learn what you are good at and what you are passionate about.
I have MANY interests and hobbies and I can't even keep up with all of them anymore!
But, for the things I love most I always find some time to do them and it usually helps me relax and recharge for the things in life that I may not enjoy so much.
Also, having many interests and hobbies gives you much more common ground in conversations when meeting new people! There is always at least one thing to talk about a little bit and that can be very helpful!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #16

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Girls SHOULD...
BUY SOMETHING FRIVOLOUS.
Once in awhile a girl should treat herself to something, fun, frivolous and perfectly useless for practical application! She should also do this without feeling guilty!
We often give up so much especially if we have children we care for and who need much so once in awhile I believe it is a very good thing to treat yourself to something you want, no matter what it cost, no matter what it is...a pair of shoes that you really don't need, another new shirt (even though you already have a dozen) because you like that colour!, the most expensive bucket of ice cream because you've never had it before, whatever it is just decide that you are worth it, you deserve a treat, and give it to yourself!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #15

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Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO LOVE AND ACCEPT THEIR BODY.
This is sometimes a very hard one. EVERY WOMAN no matter what size she is can be accused of thinking she is FAT...sometimes even when she is not!
I don't know why it is such a sin to have a little more curves or a little more flesh than someone else.
I don't know why we insist upon competing and comparing ourselves to everyone who is smaller than we are like they are the goddess and we are some flawed piece of work!
We are NOT all meant to be the same and this is meant to teach us to be tolerant of diversity.
We each hold a vibrant, beautiful, sensual, sexy goddess inside of us and we MUST learn to see, recognize and acknowledge her! Learn to love yourself as you are and all else will follow. ;)

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #14

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Girls SHOULD...
TAKE A ROAD TRIP/WEEKEND WITH THE GIRLS!
Me and my girls are planning one of these and we are hoping for it to be a fun and relaxing time together.
It will be time to catch up on things without the men around to distract us, time to be away from the men and miss them, time to enjoy things like shopping and whatever else we as girls like to do and/or talk about that irritates the boys! We will eat together, laugh together, talk about whatever we want, giggle ourselves to sleep if we want and just otherwise have a great time and I believe all girls should plan and do something like this with their friends too!

Monday, July 4, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #13

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Girls SHOULD...
RECOGNIZE AND USE TOOLS.
There is no reason why a woman should NOT know the difference between a slotted(flat end), phillips(cross end) and a robertson(square end) screw driver and NOT be able to use them as well.
It is also a good thing to know wrenches, allen or hex keys, hammers and pliers. You never know when you will need to fix something IMMEDIATELY and have no time to wait around for a MAN to get home to do it for you! So familiarize yourself with these tools and if you so desire, find some little jobs around the house that you think you could learn to do yourself and tackle them! There's nothing like the feeling of accomplishment when you complete a job that you usually would expect your man to do for you! ;)

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #12

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Girls SHOULD...
CHANGE A CAR TIRE.
You never know when you will drive somewhere and have a flat and need to pull over and change it by yourself!
So it is definitely a good idea to practice changing one until you are confident that you are capable of doing it properly and safely. I STILL do not know how to do this even though I am 40 and I owned my OWN car from the time I was 23 until just a few years ago when I sold it. I did know the process in theory but never had to implement the knowledge in practical. I think in fact that my husband changed the tires on my car at least once (what a lucky girl I am to have such a helpful and lovely hubby!!) Nevertheless, I BELIEVE whole-heartedly that EVERY woman should be able to do this job her own self!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #11

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Girls SHOULD...
Do DONUTS IN THE CAR.
This is a grand idea especially for a girl who may be a timid or unsure driver. Drive to some secluded spot, or an empty parking lot at night and do a couple of donuts in your car. Don't get caught! BUT, it is GOOD to know how a car will feel when it spins so if God forbid you do get in an accident or maybe slide on ice at some point in your driving you will not be quite as frightened and confused by the spin because you will already have had some experience with that. Believe it or not my driving instructor suggested this and I appreciated it because it DOES help your confidence and belief in yourself being able to handle something frightening and keeping control of yourself AND of the car!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #10

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Girls SHOULD...
DATE SOMEONE YOUNGER.
Now I am not talking about inappropriate age differences like she's 40 and he's 20 because I don't believe someone that much older should be messing around with someone that much younger. But, a few years difference isn't bad at all and often a younger person is full of energy that reminds you to LIVE and enjoy life a little more! Especially if you have had some hard times and become too serious and sad. Being attractive to a younger person just gives you an extra little boost of confidence and I believe THAT is good for ANY woman!

Thursday, June 30, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #9

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Girls SHOULD...
DATE SOMEONE OLDER
Dating in your age group can be common ground but, dating someone older can open a world of possibilities to you that you may not have seen before.
The level of growth and sophistication of your partner can challenge you to changes and growth of your own! Of course there is the possibility that they won't seem that much older than you anyway because men often still have that boyish spirit inside them but, it's worth the experience to learn a few things about life and about yourself.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #8

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Girls SHOULD...
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
It is important to know your own value and not allow other people to take advantage of you or use or abuse you in any way for their own agendas or gain.
Don't accept being belittled or disrespected.
Stand UP for yourself and be heard!

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #7

(7/50)
Girls SHOULD...
FALL IN LOVE.
More than once. You will then recognize that it WILL happen more than once in your life!
Everyone hopes for the ONE and if you find them you are very lucky.
However, it is good to understand and be open to the POSSIBILITIES in life.
Fall in love. Enjoy it! If it isn't right...move on!
There are many paths and ways of love.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #6

(6/50)
Girls SHOULD...
TAKE A RISK.
Say hello to that boy you always see and smile at but, are afraid to talk to.
Apply for that job you think you can't get...you might be surprised!
Start something new that you've been afraid to do before.
Challenge yourself!
If you are not willing to take the risk, you will never receive the reward!

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #5

(5/50)
Girls SHOULD...
DO SOMETHING DRASTIC WITH YOUR HAIR.
Get a hair cut if you haven't had one in a long time. Change the style of your cut.
Colour your hair. Colour your hair a funky, fun colour!
Liberate yourself from the same old boring every day you.
It will remind you that you have choices!!

Saturday, June 25, 2011

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #4

(4/50)
Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO DRIVE.
Especially if you are a quiet, shy, reserved person. Learning to drive is a HUGE confidence booster.
It CAN be scary and therefore doing it can show you that you ARE quite capable of doing BIG, SCARY things all by yourself! The independence and freedom of having a car and the ability to go where you want is HUGE! Not to mention it makes it possible to take a road trip with the girls! ;)

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #3

(3/50)
Girls SHOULD...
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.
None of us can function properly and happily if we are run down and exhausted. It is important to take time for yourself to replenish your spirit and recharge.
For some of us this can be a few minutes each day to do something for yourself in quiet and solitude.
For others a bigger chunk of time may be necessary.
Some of us can even plan to take a whole day once a week or once a month.
It doesn't matter when or how you do it, just that you DO.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #2

(2/50)
Girls SHOULD...
LEARN TO SAY NO.
Many of us will want to be helpful and accommodating to our friends so much that we will not say no when we should and will accept too much to be able to function and contribute at our best.
You should never feel guilty for saying NO and taking the time you need to keep yourself strong, healthy and balanced.

50 Day Things Girls SHOULD Do Challenge: Post #1

(1/50)
Girls should...
LIVE ALONE.
Every girl should leave home and live in an apartment by herself for at least a year.
In this way she will taste freedom and independence and enjoy doing whatever she wants to do without fear of upsetting a status quo of people she is living with.
She will then KNOW when she does live with another person which things are negotiable and which things she really needs to feel whole and well-balanced as an individual.
She will know and understand the necessity of her own silence sometimes.
She will understand and have compassion for other people's loneliness because she will have felt it at times herself.
She will learn that she can BE self sufficient and doesn't NEED another person to be with her daily in order to survive, or even enjoy her life.
She will appreciate time with friends in comparison to time alone with herself and will also appreciate time alone with herself in comparison to time with her friends.
She will KNOW that she is capable of many more things than she would if she never lived alone and had to take care of herself by herself!

Sunday, May 22, 2011

HAVE some time set aside for "ME Time"

( Original Post: I AM a QUEEN)
I think it is very important to have even 5 minutes of ME time DAILY.
But, however you work it out at least try to give yourself some time every week to recharge and renew in order to maintain a healthy balance in your life and in YOU.


50 Things to DO for ME Time

1. warm bubble bath
2. get a manicure
3. get a pedicure
4. indulge in chocolate
5. read a book
6. take a nap
7. learn a new language
8. write
9. listen to music
10. rearrange furniture
11. clean
12. dance
13. make jewelry
14. do a puzzle
15. go for a walk
16. watch a movie
17. go to a museum
18. take pics
19. exercise
20. star gaze
21. go shopping
22. go out for ice cream
23. get a massage
24. hot tub
25. buy a plant
26. work in your garden
27. surf the web
28. fresh air and sunshine
29. do some yoga or other exercise
30. meditate
31. go for a drive
32. ride your bike
33. window shop
34. take a coffee break
35. make yourself a treat
36. work on your hobby
37. soul collage
38. relax in the hammock and read a book
39. create a personal "me" space
40. sit in silence-unplugged
41. drum, drum, drum ;)
42. cook a special meal
43. order take-out and enjoy
44. give yourself a facal mask
45. write a letter to a friend
46. paint
47. have a picnic lunch in the park
48. play a game on the internet or a video game for half an hour
49. spend some time colouring in a colouring book
50. go fishing or camping for a weekend

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Take CARE of THEMSELVES

Apparently my life has been trying to tell me in no uncertain terms for quite a long time that I need to devote some time to taking care of myself. I don't seem to be a very good listener!
I know that most girls have their own particular "beauty rituals" that make them feel pampered and taken care of so they can get recharged and refreshed and keep on kicking ass like all the great girls do but, I've never really been that girl. I've always been a wash and go kind of girl.
I don't:

  • bother with make-up or the rituals that go with that
  • straighten, curl, or even blow dry my hair-told ya wash and go
  • get pedicures
  • or manicures- though my friend gave me one once for my birthday
What things do you do to recharge and refresh your will to live and keep going? 
We all know life can get us down sometimes and we all need something to be the "five minutes of ME time" lol. Some of us even decide to "take a ME day" though we can't do this EVERY day!
I like to have a bubble bath but, I am beginning to think that I need a RITUAL of me time.  I need a bigger chunk of time to devote to myself and some *NEW* ideas about what can be part of this ritual.
I need to find new and better ways to show LOVE to myself so that I will not feel bad or depressed and give up when I set goals and fall short. Time and ritual to recharge so I can take a deep breath, start anew and try again.
I have MANY things I have to manage in my life, most of them having to do with my health and many of them feeling difficult to do or change and I sometimes fall short and want to even give up trying. So I want to create a time for affirming to myself that I am strong enough and capable enough to KEEP trying and that someday I will get to exactly where I want to be.
So I search for a new *ME* ritual to allow me to know I am worthy to myself as well as the others around me. If you have any suggestions feel free to share! :)

Monday, March 28, 2011

HAVE their own WEEKEND Get Together.

Once upon a time I tried to plan a weekend for all of us to go to Niagara Falls.
If you have a large group of friends to please, TRY to get the ground rules set for meeting everyone's needs before you even begin or it may turn out to be an aggravation!
I don't even mind going through that if at the end of it I actually GET to GO AWAY and enjoy the fruits of my labour with my girls and enjoy a wonderful weekend with them but, alas it was not meant to be.
So I still carry a wish in my heart for such a weekend to take place but, I don't know when or if it will happen.  Though, I believe it should. In fact, I think we should have an annual weekend where all the girls of our group meet and do whatever we all agree we want to do.  If we can't agree on one thing it's a whole weekend surely we can fit in something for everyone!
But, we need to brainstorm for those of us who live on strict budgets because we can't (obviously) always afford trips to Niagara Falls for a fun weekend. Don't we all wish we could!? Anyway, I think it shouldn't be THAT hard to sort out an enjoyable weekend that will meet the needs of ALL of us girls even though we are all different and perhaps think of "girl's weekends" differently.
SO...maybe I will suggest it and we can take the next WHOLE year to argue our own individual inputs until we all agree on one plan that suits everybody! LOL
I sure hope my girls can get together on this!! ;)
You all know who you are-IF you read my post feel free to comment and voice your opinion! ;)

Friday, March 18, 2011

Girls Just Wanna Have FUN!

Once upon a time on a warm evening quite awhile ago now actually the girls and I had a night out. It was a fun night full of drinks, laughs and good girl time.
However, when we walked home we did happen to make a lot of noise.  Giggles and laughter seem to get even louder when you have added a bit of alcohol to the mix.
Our noise apparently upset my bestie's neighbour and he had a conversation about that evening a little bit later with her husband where he proceeded to say, "Girl's shouldn't have nights out!"
Well, OMG! I always have to argue that point because it is JUST as imperative that we as girls have our fun times together as it is for the boys! Girls just want to have fun!
So we can giggle a little bit more than makes sense.  So we can laugh as loud and long as we like. So we might make a little bit too much noise and bother the neighbours. As long as we are hurting no-one and having a bit of harmless fun it is worth every moment!
Girls ABSOLUTELY should have nights out. For the same reason the boys do.
To share, to bond, to grow, to laugh, to live a deeper, better, richer life than we ever could ALONE.
You go girls! ;)